Friday, 2 March 2018

Getting lost in being a 'blogger'

These day's I'm sure lots of us would agree that being a blogger, or any type of social influencer for that matter, no matter how big or small your following, there's a certain degree of pressure to keep up these 'perfect' lives with these unproblematic views and magical lifestyles on social media.

When in reality this probably isn't most of us. I can't tell you the amount of times I've seen something online, Twitter usually, that I don't agree with and not even that I want to pick a fight about because I don't, but that makes me want to share my perhaps unpopular opinion. But I don't. For one, because even though I might think I have a valid reason, there's always someone bigger than you, someone with more followers, who's minions are quite happy to personally attack you if you say anything that goes even slightly against the person they're friends with. And the internet is mean. I've experienced it before and I don't fancy being attacked by people online for having a opposing view, which isn't even necessarily wrong, just different.


And that annoys me. Why shouldn't I be able to express an opinion, one that maybe lots of other people would agree with, but also don't want to be the first to say. I've seen it to many times where someone slightly looked up to says something and even though there is something quite clearly wrong with it, their loyal 'followers' will still back them and try and take everyone else down.


Another thing with the community is that it seems quite fixated with drama recently. Whereas if it was a normal real life face to face conversation where two people disagreed, in most scenarios they would talk it out in a civilised way, listen to each other, and finish it agreeing to disagree. But on Twitter people will run with any disagreement they can find, because drama equals entertainment for some people, but quite honestly I'm getting tired of it. So anything anybody says is blown out of proportion, screenshots are sent, hate campaigns ignited and boom, there starts another blogging drama.


Aside from the drama, there is also that pressure to keep up with the blogger lifestyle in the form of pictures and content. I don't like having pictures of myself taken, it just doesn't come natural to me. We'll go somewhere nice and my mum will offer to take a picture of me, I don't even have to ask, but I'll instantly say no and shy away because it's just not me. I cannot pose to save my life and it just makes me embarrassed.


But it's then that I come home and see all my online friends and people I look up to with their stunning candids and beautiful outfit shots that I start to feel shit about myself, why can't I look like that, why can't I have good fashion content like them. I got stuck in this cycle of thinking if I can't have blog posts filled with these cute photo's of me then I'm never gonna go anywhere. But that isn't true, I mean shout out to all my babes that can do that, I love it and I love reading your content and admiring your photos, but I just can't do that, at least not at the moment anyway and that's fine too. I can stick with my product shots, the occasional picture of me of holiday, and still be successful.


You might notice across all of my posts, there's hardly any photo's of me, it's usually product shots. I think I've only ever done one proper fashion post in my 2+ years of blogging and that was my Barcelona outfit dairy which was kind of a big deal for me. That was slightly different as I was on holiday with a friend and having her taking my pictures which I wanted for memory purposes as well, was less intimidating to me than standing in my back garden having my outfit shot by my mum.


I guess what I'm trying to say is you don't have to fit the perfect blogger stereo type of being well dressed and unproblematic. If you wanna say something, provided your not being a dick, you should be able to express you opinion, equally though, don't become obsessed with the drama and handle differences in opinions the mature respectful way. Also don't get too caught up in the perfect Instagram feeds and needing to be, dress or blog a certain way to be a 'blogger'. Do you and you'll be just fine!
Kate Rose xo
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10 comments

  1. Such a great post Kate! I totally understand this, and theres always a lot of pressure on bloggers to be a certain way I think. Also twitter is so full of drama at the moment its actually quite sad, and especially when you feel like you can't voice your opinions, its even worse!

    Lucy | Forever September

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    1. Thank you Lucy! Hopefully the drama will blow over soon haha. X

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  2. I agree so much with this! I don't have twitter for that reason. I have only posted once on my blog but I plan to be a bit more political than most bloggers. I don't know how it will go down with other people but I guess if you don't like it just don't read it.
    Emily
    www.ambitiouslyemily.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you! Well you’ll definitely have a reader in me! X

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  3. I completely agree with this! There's so much expectation for bloggers but, for me, it's the honesty that attracts me to someone's blog :)

    Alice // The Rose Glow

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  4. YES! I love this so much! Competely agree, we shouldnt all have to be the same, have the same opinions or be a constant source of happiness and positivity! We should get to be ourselves! :)

    Erin || MakeErinOver

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    1. Thank you! Definitely, it’d be boring if we were all the same anyway! X

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  5. I completely agree. I never seem to voice my opinion on twitter just because I can't be bothered with drama and it shouldn't be like that. I've had twitter since 2010 and never have I seen more drama than I have in the past year or so! I'm also someone who never posts photos of myself on social media (unless its photos of my eye makeup) for the same reason as yours x

    emjbarker.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I’m exactly the same, it’s such a shame that everything seems to end in a drama now! X

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