Tuesday, 23 August 2016

5 fears I need to work on




Fear is an emotion I feel too often. I find myself fearing the most stupid of things at times, like moths for example. I have no idea why but I'm completely petrified of them, if theres one in the same room as me I have to leave, if I go up to my bedroom and see one in there I have to call my mum to get it for me before I can go to sleep. I know I shouldn't be frightened of them, they are tiny little things that can do absolutely nothing to me, but still whenever I see one I am instantly fearful. This is a small fear but the type of fears I'm talking about in this post are the bigger fears that I'm sure not only I have.


Fear of rejection
Whether it be fear of rejection in a relationship with a partner, the fear of rejection from you peers or even fear of rejection from that company you sent an email too asking if you could try out their products to review on your blog, most people including myself fear rejection in one shape or another. For me being rejected by my peers and people around me is the one that gets to me the most, I'm scared of talking to new people and showing them who I really am because what if they don't like me, or what if they think I'm weird. But really I shouldn't think like this because if I don't put myself out there and in a position to be rejected then I'll never know what the outcome would have been, and if they don't wanna hang out with me and accept me then it's their loss.


Fear of change
Change and me, yeah we're not friends. I used to dread each new school year where I'd have to get a completely new timetable and find my new classes and meet my new teachers. I'd much prefer for things to just stay the same. But with starting college in September I know that a lot of change is coming and that's something I need to except and get used to. I'm trying to see that change doesn't have to be bad, change can bring new and better things.

Fear of being judged
As an insecure teenager this is something I feel a lot. Whether it's the clothes I'm wearing or the makeup I'm sporting that day there's always a little nagging thing in the back of my head saying things like 'Do I look good in this outfit?' 'Have I gone too overboard with the bronzer today?' 'Are my clothes nice enough?' I've finished secondary school now but when I went there I remember I used to be so happy that we had a strict head teacher that hardly ever let us have non school uniform days, because the thought of having to pick out an outfit that I thought my peers would deem 'socially acceptable' frightened me. But in reality I'm not living my life for them, I'm living it for me! Why should it matter if they don't like my choice of clothes or hairstyle, and I also have to think that half of the time I think I'm being judged, maybe I'm not, maybe that's just me being over anxious and presumptuous


Fear of failure
For a very very long time I had the mind set of 'well at least if I don't try then I don't have to go through the upset of trying and failing, I can just fail knowing I didn't try at all and that'll be less embarrassing than trying and failing.' Yes I know I know, that's a realllyyy bad way to think but it's the way I did think and sometimes still do. I need to work on one, believing in myself, and two, knowing that it's okay to fail. I've just got to get back up and try and try again.


Thank for reading.
Kate Rose xo
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  1. I definitely fear everything listed on here and more. especially being judged and rejected. I never want to ask or try new things also because I'm scared that they won't work out and that would absolutely crush me. part of that reason is that I get my hopes up way too high. I know that fear is the number one thing stopping me from achieving my goals regarding blog and personal life but I can't help myself. It is definitely something I need to work on.
    Thanks for being brave enough to share your fears, it is appreciated.
    wishing you all the best,
    ayele.
    https://asenseofhomeblog.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you for saying that and I really do get what you mean, thanks for reading. x

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  2. I clicked on this and I was like hmm this would be a good blog post I could do too, but every single point was ticked off for me because I'm the exact same. I just have a fear of adulting in general haha. Lovely read Kate xx

    Claire ❤| My Little Memoir

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    1. Aww haha. If you do still do the post I'd love to read it. x

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  3. I completely agree with all of the points that you have made in this post, so I just want you to remember that they are all completely 100% normal - even the mention of moths moths is something that I can relate to!! I really appreciate how honest you are in posts like these. In order to face our fears, we must first accept, and acknowledge them!

    Jade xx | simplyjadey.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Jade! You are right, fears are normal! x

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  4. Fear of failure is such a big one for me. I guess I just have to accept that failure is part of life and a part of growing. Great post! Steph x

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    1. That's true, failure is inevitable to we just have to accept it and move on. x

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  5. Im guilty of these too! Good luck lovely, :) xo

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  6. Good luck babe, I Defo can agree with all of them but remain positive and you can do anything xx Pixie www.pixieox.co

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  7. I need to work on fear of change and failure too! Such a great post, interesting read. X

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  8. I suffer from the same fears! Good luck in facing them!

    Abbie-x
    chasingmydesire.com

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  9. Interesting post! I think everyone can relate to each one of these including myself! I would say that you should just be yourself and not care what others think about you. People will always judge because that's how society is unfortunately but try to not be fearful of it. It's good to be unique and different because there's only one you in the world! Lovely read!

    Ashley

    ashmcc87.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Being yourself is definitely important and you're right, there is only one of you so be who you are! x

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  10. I love that you have posted this! Really like the post! x
    www.izzieslife.co.uk

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  11. These are pretty much my fears as well! xo

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    1. They do seem to be quite common fears. Thanks for reading. x

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  12. Fear of being judged is one of my fears. Some days I don't care what people think and other days I do! Not caring what people think is easier said than done! Lol X

    ♡ itsjessiejane ♡

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    1. That's like me, some days I feel super confident but other days not at all. x

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  13. This is so inspiring! I love the post:)

    irenethayer.com

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  14. I love this post, & can definitely relate with a lot of what you said. :) i hope that you can eventually get over your fears & conquer everything you've dreamed of. ✨
    - esthechique.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much and the same goes to you! x

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